The Gift of Delay

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delPrado FamilyAfter spending ten days with my siblings in Lucca, Italy, I planned to take the train back to Venice, have a bonus afternoon in my favorite city, then fly home the next day.

That plan began to unravel when I went to buy my ticket and discovered a 24-hour train strike was scheduled for exactly the time I wanted to travel. After making numerous telephone calls to find an alternative option, I was assured that some trains would still be running.

What I wasn’t told was that I’d be making a 5 hour sidetrip to Bologna. That little surprise didn’t arrive until we’d all gotten off the train in Bologna. Many of my fellow travelers were visibly upset.

Realizing there was nothing I could do about the change in plans, I decided to look for the gift in this delay. I also suspected I was being naively optimistic.

Nevertheless, I attached myself to the del Prado family from the Philippines who were backpacking around Europe with their five delightful children. I had noticed them on the train and was curious to learn more about their adventures.

Wing, the mother, was not coping with the delay very well so I invited her to have a cappuccino with me.When I answered her question about what I do (I’m a self-employment advocate), she said, “You’re talking about me!”

I spent the next several minutes learning about her business selling handmade children’s clothing. Then I chatted with the eldest son, Ramon, who had started a business as an animator and was about to have his first film shown on television.

Since we weren’t sure exactly when our train to Venice would actually arrive, we couldn’t explore Bologna. So we hung out and spent the time together chatting and laughing and surmising about the time when we’d finally arrive in our destination.

While getting to know these entrepreneurial folks was great fun, the thing that everyone noticed about the del Prados was how kind the children were to each other. Despite being together for days, they seemed to enjoy the company of each other and the shared adventure they were having.

That same kindness was extended to me and when we finally parted at the train station in Venice, we were all on the verge of tears. The father said, “Thank you for making our trip so pleasant. We’ll always think of you as Auntie Barbara.”

As I walked off into the darkness toward my hotel, I immediately noticed that the sidewalk was covered with water. Raised platforms had been brought in to make walking possible. I struggled to navigate the temporary walkway in the dark pulling my suitcase.

When I got to the hotel, I asked about the flooding and was told there’d been such a storm all day in Venice that it looked like a hurricane was coming through.

Had I arrived at the time I wanted to, I’d have gotten drenched and had to spend the afternoon and evening in my hotel room.

Meeting the del Prados was a lot more fun than that—and a reminder that delays can come bearing a gift.

2 Responses to The Gift of Delay

  1. Maureen Anderson

    You have the best stories, Barbara! Thanks for this one!

  2. Phyl Doppelt

    Go with the flow. Instead of getting in a huff, It was a win win because Barbara was willing to talk to strangers. Isn’t that part of traveling, lots of surprises ?

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